Lit, im back.
Happy New Years to everybody. Hope this year is a blessing for all readers.
But , you know why i’m here.
Today i must help the world understand what is up with relationships and why are they so bad.
What is love nowadays?
Mostly a word just said with no meaning behind it.
So many love stories start just to end before chapter 2.
None of us should want that.
People just get together to break up and do it all over with another, then another , then another.
A life full of
” i hope this one is better ”
Does it ever end? Don’t you get tired of that?
How will you get to forever if you can’t get past today?
That phrase should stick with you.
Getting past today will always be one step closer to forever with the person you’re with.
Lets put reality into perspective right now.
90% of issues in a relationship are forgotten within a week.
You argue today, you are lovers in a couple hours.
You bring up some old shit, argue, get over it tomorrow.
Problem is we let alot of these temporary moments of frustration and anger lead to longlasting decisions.
Lets use alil more reality for a second.
I have two major reasons relationships don’t last these days.
1️⃣. Lacking individuality.
2️⃣. Overwhelming Insecurity.
Time to break them down:
1️⃣. Lacking individuality:
Relationship Goals? You follower.
Doing something because you seen other couples do it? You follower.
Loving somebody the way you think they should be loved vs knowing the person and individualizing the love you give that person.
What a shame this world has went to extreme monkey see monkey do when it comes to something as precious as love.
No love should be a copy of another.
No relationship is the same.
No person is the exact same as another.
Do people tend to forget this? Yes.
Fellas! Oh fellas.
Do you know your woman?
Do you sit and seriously pay attention to behaviors of your woman?
The way she move? The way she think? The things she love ? The actions that changes her moods? How to react to her moods?
No. No other woman you had before is like her. Pay attention before she sense your lackluster efforts and deems you unable to do better.
Ladies, i did not forget about y’all.
Do you know your man? Do you know how easy it is to please him? Do you know how to keep your sexy up? Do you know how to randomly keep him happy? Do you know how to use your intuition for anything other than negativity ?
Individualize your love. It will create a bond based on efforts taken by the two in it and not just a replicated love on what you see.
2️⃣. Overwhelming insecurity:
For some odd reason men/women fear the next.
They fear that somebody might be better for their partner than them and yo the fear might be right.
You might not be the best person for the person you are with, but that’s what forever is for.
Forever is the goal. Not a year, not 5, forever.
Insecurity comes in so many different ways but the one i will focus on today is :
When a law is created a.k.a ” you cant do …. ”
Once you start creating a
” you can’t do ” list in your head, you fear you are not enough for this person.
You put this person vs rules you are creating in your head so these random things start becoming issues because you feel second.
You feel this person isnt working towards forever with you.
Now insecurities arise.
Little things bother you that shouldnt.
Stress follows that may lead to more stress which leads to a toxic situation.
When if you did what i said before this and had individualized your love, the trust would be built. You would never need to feel second because the understanding is there. You know one another so well that life is easy , not hard.
That what love is about.
Love is about indivdualizing the feelings you give to one another. These feelings can’t be replicated because only this person bring this side out of you.
Relationships arent working because people are lazy.
People want love in 2 months. People wanna skip the process.
The process is a long one. You have to learn this person life for x amount of years they been living to understand the future you will have with this person.
So if that’s not the effort you are willing to put, stop wasting life saying you want love and just say you want to enjoy life.